Pramila Desai’s family

Pramila Desai is the great-grand-daughter of Shriram Jatar and granddaughter of Balasaheb Jatar, the son of Shriram Jatar who passed away early, from T.B., leaving behind his daughter Kumud Borgankar (nee Jatar) and widow Ramabai Jatar. Pramila is one of Kumud’s four daughters and presently lives in the USA.

The following write-up and photos have been contributed by Ranjan Desai, Pramila Desai’s son.

Pramila Desai nee Borgaonkar is the oldest daughter of Shankar Rao Borgaonkar and Kumudini Borgaonkar (nee Jatar) and the grand-daughter of Bala Saheb Jatar and Ramabai Jatar nee Khandekar (also called fondly as Dudhai).

Pramila married Kishen Rao Desai and has four children – Revathi, Swaroopa (Rupa), Sunita (Ruma), Ranjan, and 7 grandchildren (Arjun, Achyut, Deepali, Amrita, Nisha, Rina and Aditi) and 4 great-grandchildren (Shaila, Naveen, Anishka and Anvitha). Her 90th birthday was recently celebrated in California, USA.

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Pramila Desai’s four children. From Left to Right: Revathi, Sunita (Ruma), Pramila (Sitting), Ranjan and Swarupa (Rupa)

 

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From L to R Sitting: Deepali Abhayankar, Asha Ghate, Pramila Desai, Aditi Desai, Rina Dhawlikar

 

Pramila Desai’s other siblings are her brother Digamber (Bal) Borgaonkar and sisters Achala Rao (Deceased), Saral Dudhbhate (Deceased) and Asha Ghate.

The erstwhile Hyderabad was ruled by the Nizam which was an independent state. Nizam ruled Hyderabad and served as the client king even under British rule. Her father Shankar Rao after completing his studies as Barrister-At-Law in London choose to return back to India and settle down in Hyderabad.

Pramila was brought up in Hyderabad at the Borgaonkar ancestral home. She was encouraged by her parents to study and served as a role model to all her siblings. She graduated with honours and finished her Bachelors in Arts (B.A.) from the famous Nizam College (which still exists in Hyderabad). In the olden days in Hyderabad when very few girls used to study, all her siblings also graduated in different fields of study.

Pramila often spent time with her Jatar cousins in her childhood days and has very fond memories.

She used to ride her bicycle to go around when she was very young in the erstwhile Hyderabad where very few girls ventured out alone. She grew up to be a bold, strong and independent woman. She was very active in sports, learned swimming in the swimming pond at home and played tennis. She even represented the district level tennis tournament from Sangareddy district. She was interested in acting and took part in a stage show.

Both Pramila who stayed at home to take care of her children, and her husband Kishen Rao Desai, worked hard to make sure that their four children got a good education. They both valued the importance of education and hard work to do well in life and that proved correct for their children. Unfortunately, Kishen Rao Desai passed away while he was in the mid-’50s due to a brief illness caused by Hepatitis B virus which was not diagnosed properly in time to cure it. Moreover, the vaccine for that Hepatitis B virus came a couple of years later. Undaunted, Pramila continued to encourage her younger children to complete and finish their graduation.

After moving to the USA, the India Community Center (ICC) in the Bay Area, California has become “a home away from home” for her. With a handful of enthusiastic volunteers, the ICC was started around the 1990s. Since the last 2-3 decades, Pramila has actively participated and conducted many programs at ICC. She helped start many programs at ICC which still continue to date. One such program was called “Chajju Ka Chaubara” at ICC and she managed that program for a couple of years where all the seniors would talk about their experiences, tell stories or read the poems. She actively participated in a program called FOSWL (Friends Of Same Wave Length) which now has chapters all over the world. Look out for a chapter in your city !! They invite a well-known good speaker to talk on a topic which is attended by many enthusiastic audiences. She helped many members in learning to stitch sweaters and comforters in the arts and crafts program @ ICC.

Pramila’s 90th birthday was celebrated in the United States in 2018. The photo below is of the celebration at home.

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Standing row: Rama Kulkarni (great-granddaughter of Bhausaheb) Rupa Abhayankar, Ranjan Desai, Revathi, Aditi (Ranjan’s daughter), Ruma, Tina (Uday’s daughter), Gautam (Deepali’s husband), Saraswati (Revathi’s schoolmate), Sripad (Ruma’s husband), Deepali, Tirumala (Saraswati’s daughter).
Sitting row: David (HabibKhans student), Habib Khan, Pramila Desai and Asha Ghate (moushi)

Another celebration took place at the ICC.

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360DegViewOfICC.( 90th Birthday Celebration at ICC

 

Presently Pramila actively attends ICC twice a week while keeping herself busy the rest of the days by reading books, doing exercises – yoga, walking and watching TV.

Additional input contributed by Pramila’s daughter, Sunita (Ruma):

What a grand age to achieve! That itself is an achievement in itself. We are hoping to celebrate it every year from now on and reach a century. She has always been very sophisticated and distinguished.
The celebration began with Puja in the house. Mummy recites and does many aartis.
The next was a celebration in her center where she goes 2-3 times a week over the last 20 years. Special music program and lunch was arranged. Many of her friends felicitated her with shawls and gifts.
She and her friends felt very, very young when the evergreen song of “zohrajabeen” was sung. She thanked everyone and joined in singing her favorite song. It was very well arranged by center and Ranjan.
Over the weekend the celebration continued in the clubhouse for friends and family. Overall our mother was very happy, elated and in good spirits and is calling up everyone to thank everyone individually

Related Reading: Visit to Borgao85th and 90th Birthday Party of 5 cousins,

 

Four Jatar ladies of yesteryear

During the old days, taking a photograph was an event. People got dressed up and went to the studio. I can imagine how excited these lovely ladies must have been when they decked up in their finery and trooped to the studio.

This photo was probably clicked before 1927, because 1927 was the year when Indira Jatar got married.

From Left to Right: Kumud Jatar, Chani Jatar, Indira Jatar and Sarojini (Banutai [seated]).

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Chani (Chandrabhaga) and Sarojini were sisters, daughters of Kashinath Jatar (Bapurao), who was the eldest son of Shriram Jatar. Sarojini married Narsimha Laxman Inamdar. Chani died early.

The ladies on either side of them are Kumud Jatar and Indira Jatar. Kumud Jatar was the daughter of Ranganath Jatar (Balasaheb), the son of Shriram Jatar who passed away very early when Kumud was a child. Later, Kumud married Shankarao Borgaonkar of Hyderabad. Indira Jatar was the daughter of Bhausaheb, and married Shri Bhalchandra Balkrishna Bhajekar. Thus, Kumud and Indira were the first cousins of Chandrabhaga and Sarojini.

I cannot help but wonder what these sisters and cousins talked about. They led stable and secure lives and had loving families so their hopes and dreams came true. Except for Chani, ofcourse.

The Borgaonkar ancestral home

The Borgaonkar family is the family which Smt. Kumudini Borgoankar nee Jatar, married into. She married Shankarao Borgaonkar and was the only child of Balasaheb Jatar, the second son of Shriram Bhikaji Jatar. Shankarao was from Hyderabad. He and Kumudini had four daughters – Pramila, Saral, Achala and Leela and one son Bal Borgaonkar.

These photographs and information given below was provided by Pramila Desai’s son, Ranjan Desai, the grandson of Kumudini, and great-grandson of Balasaheb Jatar.

The photos below are of the Borgaonkar home in Hyderabad. Continue reading “The Borgaonkar ancestral home”

The Jatar Family Bhishis

Bhishi is a gathering of people who generally meet monthly and each contributes a small amount towards a fund which goes to the person hosting it. It is a type of kitty party…in other words, it is an excuse to keep in touch on a regular basis.

The women of the Jatar Family (and their descendants) have done a great job in maintaining the bhishi for the last 20 years, and more. It’s amazing that the bhishi includes not just first, second and third cousins (spouses too) but also cousins twice removed. Also aunts and nieces, several times removed. The bhishi has everyone with Jatar blood, or someone Continue reading “The Jatar Family Bhishis”

Bal Borgaonkar’s 85th Birthday Photograph

 

The birthday party took place at Ed Oliver Golf Club, Wilmington, Delaware in the U.S.

Bal Borgaonkar sitting with wife Manda (nee Purandare) with Sonya (their daughter) in the center.
Standing L.R: Wyatt (Sonya’s son), Nisha (Ruma’s daughter), Revathi and Ruma (Bal Borgaonkar’s sister’s daughters), Raj (Bal Borgaonkar’s son), Uday Dudhbhate (Bal Borgaonkar’s sister’s son), Shankar Joshi, Sripad, Tara (Sonya’s daughter), Kumud (Uday’s wife), Rina (Ruma’s daughter), and Evan Borgaonkar (Raj’ s son)

Bal Borgaonkar is the grandson of Balasaheb Jatar, (his daughter Kumudini’s son). Balasaheb died early, and was the second son of Shriram Bhikaji Jatar.

You can read about more about the Borgaonkars here: Bal Borgaonkar’s journey to America, about his sister Achala Rao and father Shankarao  and about Borgao.

Bal Borgaokar’s Journey to America

Bal Borgaonkar is the son of Shankarao Borgaonkar and Smt. Kumudini Borgoankar nee Jatar.  Kumudini Jatar Borgaonkar was the daughter of Balasaheb Jatar, the son of Shriram Bhikaji Jatar . 

Bal Borgaonkar is the brother of Mrs Achala Rao (nee Borgaonkar)

This is written by Bal Borgaonkar:-

  1. I was brought up and raised in erstwhile Hyderabad State in pre-partition India. Political changes there made things difficult for me to obtain a good education and pursue a professional career in my chosen field of genetics. Change in my specialization further from plant to human/medical genetics gave me a much wider scope. I do not think I would have been able to write Chromosomal Variation in Man and publish several (nine) editions from 1974/5 to the late 90s (www.wiley.com/borgaonkar) and an ebook in 2011/12 (bookshelf.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov) if I had not migrated.
  2. I obtained Ph.D. in Genetics from Oklahoma State University, Stillwater, OK. Secured a faculty position in Grand Forks, North Dakota (1963) after several attempts all over the world. Continue reading “Bal Borgaokar’s Journey to America”

Visit to Borgao

This has been written by Bal Borgaokar. His father Shankarrao Borgaokar was the grand son-in-law of Shriram Bhikaji Jatar.

For more than 50 years I have been responding to questions about how the family name ‘Borgaonkar’ came about, to people here in the USA. I was told by my father that he took this family name of Borgaonkar, about a century ago, when he and his cousins came to Pune to continue their High School education at the New English School in English medium, as Gulbarga had Urdu medium instruction in the then Nizam’s Dominions.

He did not like the name Kulkarni, Continue reading “Visit to Borgao”